Okay group, my turn for encouragement so bear with me . . .
Got the locks [meaning "hair"] twisted Thursday the 15th. The
loctitian's instructions were, do not let water TOUCH your head, keep
the shower head BELOW your neck, return to me in two weeks for a
wash, re-twist. Okay, fine. I've been doing the reading, visiting
DBs like this one, visiting varios websites. I've learned this is a
process, won't be an overnight thing, yadda, yadda, yadda. So,
decided I'm ready, I'm woman enough for this journey!!!!
Weeeeeellllll . . .
Twists have all but come apart (I followed the "PROFESSIONALS"
instructions to leave mi hair be); she used a gel (TCB to be exact),
what little "twists" that are left on top are hard, and when you
touch 'em (yeah, I finally touched, 'em, what the hell), you get this
gritty nasty stuff on your fingers), when I felt my scalp the other
day, felt this cakey stuff, lumps of it, decided to "scratch" and
see, this stuff/matter got under my fingernails, googy, nasty, the
top has a nasty matted look, the hair by the name of my neck is loose
and kinda just sticking out (thank goodness it's soft, guess it
wasn't as much gel back there).
I purchase the NHS books, see the photos on the web, of beautiful
locs (now I'm beginning to wonder how many of them may be purchased
extensions). Here I am trying to do this the natural way (not
dissing those who don extensions), it's just I want it to be MY hair,
my own home grown variety. Oh, btw, saw Malcolm Jamal Warner the
other day, oh mi God, better than an orgasm - his locks. THAT'S what
I want!!!!
Am I asking too much that my locs have the appearance equal to the
depth that I care for, love them? Do you understand my questions, I
may not be clear in the way I'm asking this? IOW, I want them to
look like I love and care for them. I do not want an unkempt, dirty,
nasty look!!! I believe that's why so many people dog out locking,
because people get to feeling they don't have to do anything with
them and I will not accept that. I ain't goin' out like that (as the
saying goes).
Hell, at this point, I'd be happy if my hair simply held twists, let
alone loced up. I know it takes months (maybe even years) for my
hair to loc and I am prepared to accept that.
As part of this self-education I am undergoing I talk to every locked
person I run into on the streets that will share. Ran into a locked
and a twisted person last night at the mall. As it turns out, the
twisted woman works at the JC Penney Salon. Get this, she charges
$25.00 for twists (I just paid $75.00, mind you to the "loctitian" -
you know, the ones I have not that are all but gone, and what's left
looks like shit). She says she uses some gel (been there). The guy
I ran into with the actual locs, looked at my head and said I need
more length. When I inquired about the D. L. Hughleys and others
with twists and hair much shorter than mine, he commented about MY
texture. Because of MY texture I need to grow my hair longer before
attempting to loc.
Another beautician told me yesterday, locs don't fit my personality,
my face, my beautiful eyebrows (she had just met me btw!!!!! I went
there to purchase some "beeswax" that a co-worker told me about that
turned out to not even be beeswax, duh!!). Oh, and the beautician
that I went to the shop to get the wax from, she's just being honest
with me, telling me the "truth" [regarding me not looking nice with
locks]. Yeah, right!!
This has gotten too long and I'm just getting warmed up, so, I'm
going to wind it down. Bottom line, I'll keep reading and learning,
and I know eventually I'll get it right, I think!!! I'll tell you
this much, I wasn't into the "freeform" type of locs, but they're
starting to make sense to me. Perhaps I am on information overload
in my attempt to learn and talk to people about locking.
All I want to do is loc, one way or another.
Hotep!